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Surf Happy Qi: 7 Secrets\u00a0<\/em><\/span><\/h1>\n

Nadia Linda Hole MD\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Fall 7 times. Stand up 8 \u2013 Japanese proverb<\/em><\/p>\n

It\u2019s always easier to ride the wave in the direction it\u2019s going \u2013 Gerry Lopez<\/em><\/p>\n

Happiness depends as Nature shows, less on exterior than most suppose \u2013 W Cowper<\/em><\/p>\n

Start the day with Love, Fill the day with Love, End the day with Love \u2013 Sai Baba<\/em><\/p>\n

There is a wisdom in the wave \u2013 Dorian Paskowitz MD\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

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Spring has come & gone. \u00a0Surf\u2019s up. \u00a0& Life moves on. \u00a0Is happiness for the birds?<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

Why all the challenges, personally & globally? What in the Yin Yang is going on? Thank heaven the birds wake singing, & the bees, at least in Hawaii, are coming back!<\/p>\n

From solar flare CME\u2019s & earthquakes, orange & green revolutions, to relationship challenges, & more; the \u201cShift\u201d is undeniably upon us. Speaking of birds & bees, I happened to fall in love this year, with a kind of man, offering me a kind of life, I\u2019ve spent much of my life running from…<\/p>\n

I fell in love with, & married, a Surfer – a lanky, blond, blue eyed surfer, larger than life tall, with a heart of gold, unquenchable passion for dolphins & whales, humongous dreams for humanity, & an Attitude!!! – radically different from the meticulous orderly traditional Chinese culture I was born into.<\/p>\n

No matter what the news headlines are, no matter what turmoil we\u2019re facing, inside or out, my hubby somehow manages to find \u201cHappy<\/span>.\u201d<\/p>\n

As I lay in bed one night, pondering what makes my hubby, & people in general, Happy, my fortune cookie\u2019s message made me smile, \u201cOne key to happiness is a bad memory.\u201d Among the happiest times I\u2019ve had with my hubby, are surfing, where my hubby\u2019s notoriously \u201cbad\u201d \u00a0\u00a0memory becomes an asset.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s hard to successfully surf a wave, or relationship, loaded with \u201cbad\u201d memories, of old hurts. \u00a0Thanks to my hubby, I\u2019m learning how to \u201csurf\u201d life.<\/p>\n

Surfing is about celebrating the waves of life, no matter what the last wave \u201cdid.\u201d\u00a0 Each wave is a new experience, which can smash you or carry you.\u00a0 Whether you dive under, or let the wave carry you, you\u2019ve got to relax & let go. You\u2019ve got to trust, trust, trust, & celebrate whatever the wave brings you. Each wave is another chance to let the water of life, of love, wash you free. Surfing sweetens surrender.<\/p>\n

I woke the next morning to surprise messages from friends – one mourning a death in the family, another celebrating a new baby, birth in the family. \u00a0Even as I write, urgent messages keep coming in from friends, clients, & patients \u2013 one from a forest ranger in shock over the 2nd<\/sup> suicide in days in his extended family, another from a CEO best selling author who\u2019s afraid she\u2019s losing her mind.<\/p>\n

Holy Shift<\/span>!<\/em> \u00a0Has life been a bit of a wild ride, with an unexpected wave or two, for anyone else?\u00a0 Whoa! Time to catch our breath\u2026 before the next wave.\"Surfer2\"<\/a><\/p>\n

As individuals, couples, families, communities, as a global, awakening, collective consciousness, we\u2019ve very real, turning point, choices before us.<\/p>\n

Our everyday choices, as mundane as what we eat, wear, think, & throw away, inevitably effect, & will continue to effect, the lives of others, our loved ones, our children; Mother Earth, Father Sky, the Ocean; <\/strong>& Web of Life, for generations to come.<\/p>\n

What if, when we in choose to drive a car, rather than walk, some child in New Zealand has an asthma attack? \u00a0What if, whenever we gulp down another bottle of bottled water, a child in Pakistan goes thirsty? What if, when we conveniently use yet another plastic bag, yet another sea creature\u2019s life is put at risk?<\/p>\n

As Qi practitioners, mothers, fathers, friends, & lovers of life \u2013 How do we fully wake to the ripples of our choices?\u00a0 How do we best support each other? \u201cDon\u2019t worry \u2013 Be happy!\u201d can ring hollow.<\/p>\n

Realms of research inform us however, that happy people live healthier, wealthier, & longer lives, with probably happier sex to boot. \u00a0Furthermore, happy people, in work & love, tend to have greater \u201csuccess,\u201d \u201cmeaning.\u201d & purpose in their lives as well, making a difference in the lives of others.\"260310_118293611592689_117732484982135_169061_1223998_n\"<\/a><\/p>\n

What\u2019s the magic formula? How do we inspire others, not to mention ourselves, to break free of old self indulgent habits, to fully live, fully \u201cmeaningful\u201d lives?<\/p>\n

Chicken vs egg?\u00a0 How? Why? What if? What now? How? \u2026 If you\u2019re Surfer\u2026, who cares?<\/p>\n

Interestingly, the new prime minister of Bhutan, a country known for its Gross National Happiness measure as an alternative to gross national product, did not include Happiness as one of his campaign promises, \u201cRather than talking about happiness, we want to work on reducing the obstacles to happiness.\u201d<\/p>\n

Interestingly, surfers are often passionate activists in deeply caring, about & for, our cross cultural extended family, the Ocean, & Mother Earth; quietly serving, behind the scenes, reducing obstacles.<\/p>\n

As a newly wed, madly in love with a mad surfer, I\u2019m discovering the paramount importance of facing our inner obstacles to happiness, & re-learning how to apply traditional Qi tools, in very real life ways. When the waves keep coming in, when the sun sets, & all\u2019s said & done \u2013 what\u2019s the bottom line, for living as Qi centered, happy, full filled, a life as possible?<\/p>\n

Notice the Qi glow surfers so often have? & Attitude!! What Qi secrets can we learn from my surf happy hubby?<\/p>\n

1)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 KEEP BREATHING<\/span>, one breath at a time, as deeply as possible, out \u201cbad\u201d Qi, in \u201cgood\u201d Qi. When you don\u2019t know how to possibly navigate the next wave, next emotion, next thought, next challenge; keep breathing. Feel as authentically as possible, your body, your heart, your feelings, the truth of your hearts of hearts, without any self judgment. We can demo, via kinesiology, how taking even 2 or 3 deep Qi breaths, fully into your heart,\u00a0 belly, & body, can instantly & measurably change your state of being.<\/p>\n

2)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 KEEP LOVING<\/span>.\u00a0 Know that beyond the \u201cIt\u2019s all up to ME\u201d vs \u201cIt\u2019s all up to YOU,\u201d that we\u2019ve a greater WE. \u00a0While no one else can ride my wave of life for me, or your wave of life for you; it\u2019s easier, when we\u2019re out on a wave, alone, to know that we\u2019re Loved. Somehow, we\u2019ve got to do all we humanly can, to keep Loving & trusting one another thru the waves of life, no matter what the waves may bring, for the greater WE.\u00a0 Qi masters, & AHMA doctors, both teach that Love is the greatest healer of all.<\/p>\n

3)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 KEEP TRUSTING<\/span> the process. Whatever I\u2019m feeling, out on a wave; whether it be anger, hurt, & disappointment; or peace, bliss, & joy, from heaven knows where, there\u2019s no one on the wave, besides me, to hold accountable for my feelings, my choices, my life.<\/p>\n

All we can do, each moment, each wave, is make the \u201cbest\u201d possible next choice, from our heart of hearts, a choice aimed for relishing the gift of this wave, this relationship, this love, this moment, NOW! \u2026 Bah the last wave already past, or next wave yet to come.<\/p>\n

We\u2019ve got learn to trust that on some level, each choice of our life has been the \u201cright\u201d choice, to bring us the perfect life lessons, at the perfect time. \u00a0We\u2019ve got to trust that somehow each wave is bringing us exactly what we need, to grow, on our path Home.<\/p>\n

4)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 LET GO –<\/span> There\u2019s absolutely nothing you, or I can personally do to change the waves – yours, mine, or anyone else\u2019s. \u00a0Especially when someone projecting \u201cstrong\u201d emotions, or judgments, that\u2019s their<\/em> wave – not mine, not yours. \u00a0We\u2019ve got to own & let go any reaction, judgment, stories, or agenda we ourselves may personally have. As a colleague, Jim Self puts it, \u201cWhat you think of me, is none of my business.\u201d The waves of life, & emotions, high & low, come & go. \u00a0We\u2019ve got to be willing to simply observe, with detached loving compassion, rather than reaction, people, including ourselves, releasing \u201cstuff.\u201d<\/p>\n

5)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 SAY NO<\/span> \u2013 Give yourself permission to say No, to be true to your own gut, your own heart. \u00a0At times, some waves are simply too big for me. \u00a0\u00a0When the wave\u2019s too big, & all I can see are clouds, fore casting a possible storm, I\u2019m learning that it\u2019s wiser to bite my tongue, & simply wait out the set. I\u2019ve got to discipline myself to choose NOT to engage, & trust that when the skies calm, sooner or later, a wave will come, before the sun sets, that we can once again ride together, & come celebrate in Peace.<\/p>\n

6)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 SAY YES<\/span>, to a bigger, happier, NEW STORY.\u00a0 Are you aware of the stories we tell ourselves? As Einstein used to ask in his later life \u2013 What if it\u2019s a friendly universe, & there\u2019s some force that wants only the best for You?\u00a0 What would it take to say Yes!\u00a0 How about doing our best to become aware of our inner, unconscious, voices?<\/p>\n

We can demo via kinesiology & other medical tests, how your every thought effects your muscle strength, EEG brain waves, neurotransmitters, heart rate variability, & immune system. More importantly, negative thoughts weaken not only you, but also everyone else in the room. Positive thoughts strengthen BOTH you, AND also everyone else in the room.<\/p>\n

Rather than focusing on \u201charm reduction\u201d negatives, what about focusing instead on the blessings in disguise? Perhaps it\u2019s time to reframe the story of our lives? \u00a0– yours, mine, – &\u00a0 recognize how we\u2019re all interconnected? \u00a0Time yet for a new, greater, WE story?<\/p>\n

7)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 REMEMBER YOUR INNER SMILE & GO FOR IT<\/span>\u2013 There\u2019s a \u201cno mind,\u201d \u201cno expectation,\u201d freedom, peace, stillness, ease, & bliss, that\u2019s possible in the waves, like making Love, born out of gratitude, beyond words, & not necessarily sexual. Catch it, Ride it, Remember it. With each & every breath, every thought, every action, every wave, do your best to Remember your Inner Smile, & connection to the infinite universal Qi. \u00a0In this infinite stillness, anything & everything is possible. Feel the \u201cYes!\u201d in your heart of hearts, for your dreams, your purpose, your passion, your true Love, & GO FOR IT!!!<\/p>\n

Dr Seligman, Positive Psychology Center, U Penn, describes 3 ingredients of happiness \u2013 pleasure, engagement, & meaning. The meaningful life “consists of knowing what your highest strengths are, & using them to belong to, & in the service of something larger than you are.”<\/em><\/p>\n

Sounds like some surfers I know. I\u2019ve yet to meet a surfer unhappy surfing, surfing life. \u00a0Is happiness for the birds? YES! & for Surfers, Lovers, & \u00a0Qi family too! Happy Surf, Happy Qi, & Blessed Be.<\/p>\n

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REFERENCES:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Butler, Nigel; Long Distance Swim,<\/em> https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=idgIvwwN7YY<\/p>\n

Hole MD, Nadia Linda;<\/strong> Holy Shift<\/em>, YS Dec 2011; Yin Yang of Solar Flares<\/em>, YS June 2012; & A New Love Story<\/em>, YS Feb 2014<\/p>\n

Self, Jim, & Roxanne Burnette, What Do You Mean the Third Dimension is Going Away?<\/em>, Inner Sight Press, Scottsdale CA, 2013<\/p>\n

Seligman PhD, Martin, http:\/\/www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu\/Default.aspx<\/a><\/p>\n

http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2013\/10\/05\/world\/asia\/index-of-happiness-bhutans-new-leader-prefers-more-concrete-goals.html<\/a><\/p>\n

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\"Dr.<\/a>Dr Linda Nadia Hole MD is a pioneer QiGong\u201cmaster\u201d in bridging Qigong & medicine, with degrees from Princeton, Duke, Oneness, & USHS Universities. She has served on numerous faculties, including the American Holistic Medical Association, & American Academy of Pain Management; is a contributing author of chapters on Qi-KHT for complementary medicine textbooks; consulting editor for Chinese Medical Qigong; co-founder of the Free Distance Healing Qi Project, & IAMQI. Besides dancing, dolphins, healing in the way of Love, the practical science of \u201cmiracles,\u201d& Peace; Dr Hole\u2019s passion is bringing a more heart centered, Qi approach, to families, communities, business, & medicine. For upcoming Dolphin Qi, & Kilimanjaro Pilgrimages, visit http:\/\/AlohaMD.com \u00a0 \u00a0<\/em><\/address>\n
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